Pet Bereavement Guide – Children
Pet Bereavement Guide – Children. Dogs, cats, rabbits, guinea pigs, birds, reptiles, sheep and all other kinds of animals in different shapes and sizes have a special place in the heart of the children in their lives. Children of all ages love and grow very close to their pets.
Pets are companions; they give us courage; they’re our best friends; and they will always listen and can keep a secret. Unfortunately, for every child that has a pet, there will come a time that they must face the reality of the feelings of grief that come when their pet dies.
For a child, often the grief of losing a pet is as real as the grief felt when losing another loved one. This is often the first time that a child will have to deal with the very strong emotions that accompany grief. However, unlike most adults, children do not know to expect that they will encounter grief.
The grief of losing a pet may be accompanied by feelings of anger, despair, sadness, emptiness, longing, and in the case of younger children, confusion and a lack of understanding. As a parent, you may underestimate the impact that losing a pet can have for a child. Sometimes this impact will be small, and may not last for long. For others, the impact may be big and may endure for the weeks and months that follow.
Children’s understanding of death changes during different ages and stages of their life. Children often experience grief in waves that come and go. Some children may initially appear to be not affected by grief, and may become distressed later on.
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Talking to your child in an open and honest way about the death of their pet is very important. Try to avoid telling your child that their pet has ‘gone away’ somewhere, as this may be confusing for them. There is also the chance that your child will find out that their pet has died anyway – it is much better to hear this from you. This way, your child is
more likely to feel that they can trust you and talk to you about their feelings if they need to. Talk to your child in a caring and compassionate way and let them know that it is OK for them to feel sad, angry or confused about the death of their pet. Let your child know that you are there to answer their questions in an open and honest way. Let them know that you also feel sad or upset that their pet has died, but that these feelings will pass and the normal routines of life will carry on.
It is important for your child to know that you are there to support them through the difficult emotions that may arise when they are grieving the loss of a pet. Provide them with physical comfort, such as a cuddle, if they will accept it. Also give them the time and space to ask questions and talk to you about their feelings. Remember that strong emotions may come and go in waves and may last over the days, weeks and sometimes months to come.
It can be very comforting for children to have some way to remember the pet they have lost. This may be by having a photo of their pet, doing a drawing of their pet, or having a ceremony at home to say goodbye. All of these activities can help to acknowledge the important role the pet has had in your child’s life and that they are no longer there.